The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own
understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct
Proverbs 3, 5-6
I live by these words daily. Back in 1992 I was a
fun-loving 19 year old who was starting a career in the US Navy
and finally coming out of her shell. I was stationed in Pensacola
Fl and was scheduled to leave for Hawaii in February. I thought
life was pretty good.
On December 6 on the way back from an overnight trailride I was
in an auto accident. The Ranger I was in flipped 2 1/2 times and I
was thrown out sometime during those flips. I was asleep and when
I was thrown from the truck was knocked unconscious so even now,
almost 10 years later, I don't remember any of it - which some say
is a blessing.
I awoke in the hospital unable to move because they had me
strapped down so I didn't further hurt myself. To say that was one
of the scariest moments in my life would be an understatement. To
make a long story short I sustained a broken collar-bone, twisted
lower spine and depressed skull fracture. I was told then that I
would more than likely have problems later on from these injuries.
With the arrogance of youth I thought no, it will never happen
to me. I developed a devil-may-care attitude and while I still
believed in the lord and knew that it was by his will alone I made
it out of that accident I pushed everything to the limit. In time
though, the symptoms and medical problems the dr's warned me about
began happening and while at first I tried to ignore them they got
to the point of where they was interfeing with my life.
By this time I was happily married with a daughter, bot of whom
I loved more than life itself. I knew I had to get help. Being a
veteran I was eligible for medical care at the local VA hospital
and was already classified at 20% disabled. In 3 years I went from
that 20% to 70% to unemployable due to the severity of my service
related disabilities. At 26 this can get depressing and the
severity of my problems are scarey. As the poem states though I
take it one day at a time.
~Life is a Miracle~
Life is a miracle
Don't let it slip away,
Open your heart to others
give of yourself each day.
See the Beauty in everyone
regardless of where they've been,
Some have a difficult journey
and really need a friend.
Share your talents
Listen with your heart.
Do the things you dream about
but don't have time to start.
Pick a bouquet of flowers
show someone that you care,
Be gracious and forgiving
Life is never fair.
Hold on to your courage
you may need it down the road,
We all have a cross to bear
it could be a heavy load.
If your practice all these things
no matter where you roam,
You may find both sun and rain
but you'll never feel alone.
What happened after the accident . . . .
When I awoke I was informed that I had a broken left
clavicle(collarbone) with inferior displacement, a reversal of the
lordotic curve in my lower spine, and a depressed skull fracture
on the right side of my skull.
Needless to say I was in shock, I also found out my new truck
had been totaled, I was lucky to be alive and that the guy who was
driving walked away. I made the mistake of letting someone else
drive back to base because I had stayed up all night rideing and
was unsure if I could make the hour drive safely. Little did I
know . . .
**NOTE: If you're squemish, you may want to skip the next
paragraph as it gives a little detail to the surgery performed to
I had to undergo surgery for my depressed skull fracture, and
to sum it up in a few words bur holes was drilled into my skull,
the depressed skull bone was removed & reconstructed and wired
back together. After ensureing the site was cleaned they drilled
multipole holes around the craniotomy site and stainless steel
wire was passed and then surgical was laid over the area and the
bone plate was then fashioned to fit within the hole again and
wired back in position. I also had a frontal scalp laceration that
was a small skull depression. This was cleaned and reapproximated
All they could do for my shoulder was put it in a
figure-of-eight harness and give me pain medicine for it. They
also couldn't do anything about my back because of my head injury
and when I finally got back to base from medical leave nothing was
ever done about it.
It was 6 years before I was able to read these operative
reports and I immediatly got sick. I then sat and cried for quite
awhile. In only a moment the course of my life was changed beyond
my control. The lord saw fit to guide me through that ordeal and
let me live. I know I cannot change what happened and what is
happening to me now. I've accepted this. Still doesn't stop me
from wishing though.
~DON'T LOOK BACK~
As you travel through life there are always those times when
decisions just have to be made when the choices are hard, and
solutions seem scarce and the rain seems to soak your parade!
There are some situations where all you can do is to simply let
go and move on gather courage together and choose a direction that
carries you toward a new dawn.
So pack up your troubles and take a step forward the process of
change can be tough but think about all the excitement ahead if you
can be stalwart enough!
There could be adventures you never imagined just waiting around
the next bend and wishes and dreams just about to come true in ways
you can't yet comprehend!
Perhaps you'll find friendships that spring from new interests as
you challenge your status quo and learn there are so many options in
life, and so many ways you can grow.
Perhaps you'll go places you never expected and see things that
you've never seen or travel to fabulous, faraway worlds and
wonderful spots in between!
Perhaps you'll find warmth and affection and caring a
"somebody special" who's there to help you stayed centered and
listen with interest to stories and feelings you share.
Perhaps you'll find comfort in knowing your friends are
supportive of all that you do and believe that whatever decisions
you make, they'll be the right choices for you!
So keep putting one foot in front of the other and taking your
life day by day.
The Dr's Diagnosis
The main reason I'm making this page is I'm finally
being sent to a specialist over my problems with my head and I am
asking for prayers. I believe in the lord and the power of prayer.
At this time I feel I need all the help I can get.
Here's some of the problems I have;
Lower back pain, with muscle spasms and loss of spine motion in
a standing position. Piercing pain from my lower back that shoots
down my legs and up to my neck. Numbness in my legs and back as
well as a "hot - heated" feeling in my back and neck.
A seizure disorder with minor seizures daily and at least two
major seizures a month. I have black out spells, auras, focal
seizures along with many other symptoms I wont go on about right
I have a generalized anxiety disorder due to my depressed skull
fracture. I experience emotional tension and anxiety attacks and
have PTS syndrome from the accident. I also have poor memory, poor
concentration, mood swings, chronic sleep impariment, mild memory
loss, irritability and mild depression.
I am also afraid to drive often for the obvious reasons of
having a seizure as my attacks come with little or no warning now.
If I get in a crowded area while driving I'll simply freeze up and
cannot move. I also do this in crowds. I hate being around a lot
of people, I have been known to panic in crowds if I don't have an
"anchor". I prefer to stay at home, in the mountains on my horse,
or at a family members home.
Some find it hard to understand me now because I'm so different
from the person I used to be. It's depressing to me at times
because used to love going out and meeting new people. Now I
prefer to make my friends online.
If any of you experience any of these problems or similar
problems PLEASE write me! It helps some being able to talk to
others and see how they deal with these problems. I have a close
friend who is more like family to me that has similar problems and
it has really helped me since we met and I've had someone to talk
to who knows what I'm going through.
I hate having my family see me like this, especially my 4 yr
old daughter. She has seen too much in her young life. They are
very supportive though and that means a lot.
~I Refuse To Be Discouraged~
I refuse to be discouraged, To be sad, or to cry; I refuse
to be downhearted, and here's the reason why...
I have a God who's mighty, Who's sovereign and supreme; I have a
God who loves me, and I am on His team.
He is all wise and powerful, Jesus is His name; Though everything
is changeable, My God remains the same.
My God knows all that's happening; Beginning to the end, His
presence is my comfort, He is my dearest friend.
When sickness comes to weaken me, To bring my head down low, I
call upon my mighty God; Into His arms I go.
When circumstances threaten to rob me from my peace; He draws me
close unto His breast, Where all my strivings cease.
And when my heart melts within me, and weakness takes control; He
gathers me into His arms, He soothes my heart and soul.
The great "I AM" is with me, My life is in His hand, The "Son of
the Lord" is my hope, It's in His strength I stand.
I refuse to be defeated, My eyes are on my God; He has promised
to be with me, as through this life I trod.
I'm looking past all my circumstances, To Heaven's throne above;
My prayers have reached the heart of God, I'm resting in His love.
I give God thanks in everything, My eyes are on His face; The
battle's His, the victory is mine; He'll help me win the race.
I don't pity myself for these problems, yes some days
they get me down more than others, but I am alive and have a
wonderful family today. The days I am feeling down I stop and take
a look around and thank the lord for helping me through the harder
times and giving me the life I have.
I know there are people out there with bigger problems than
mine and who don't have as much as I do and when that runs through
my mind I feel shame for being depressed about my problems.
I refuse to be discouraged and give up, and will fight to live
a life as close to normal as possible. While this "normal" may not
be the norm, it works for me and my family, and I have the lord to
Please remember me in your prayers today and as I asked before,
if anyone has similar problems please write me. Also remember my
family in your prayers. Thank you.
Heres a poem I wrote on July 16, 2000 I thought I'd share.The